I feel very Othered by that.

Ah, that's it exactly. Thanks for identifying that.

There has to be a good space between the idea that there are a lot of white people here, and the idea that not everyone is white. We seem to be achieving that with the idea that not everyone is straight or able, and it seems like there are at least enough of us PoCs already being verbal right now that we can say, this isn't a white place. Cis, perhaps, but not white.